Have you ever thought, I’ve had enough of being a romantic idiot! THIS time, I’m gonna use my brain. THIS time, I’m going to be sensible.
I have. I always used to think that love mattered more than anything. That’s what I told myself when I had doubts about my first marriage (he may be as much fun to be around as shingles, but..it’s love). That’s what I told myself about the uber-macho drug addict I fell in love with next. And THAT’s what I told myself when deciding whether to go back to the cheating liar who came after him. Well…
Keeping Score, a Guide to Love and Relationships, by Marc Brackett, could cure me of all that (not saying it will, but it could). They say that Love never keeps score..but of course it does. Lose too many test matches and you’re strongly tempted to throw down the bat, kick the balls, and go home.
The premise of this book is that you should look at what matters to you in your relationship and decide if you can fix it or whether you should get a refund. What matters is different depending on whether you’re a chick or a bloke, but the main message is kind of empowering. Love, says Marc,is a personal choice. I LIKE that idea!
‘Have you ever wondered how it is possible to launch rockets from Earth and have them land on Mars exactly on time years later?’ Not with ‘love’, anyway. ‘Rockets,’ says Marc, ‘are not launched using hunches or feelings’.
I can quibble with the details – for instance, as a woman, I’ve felt the thrill of holding the hand of a man who’s got money and status, but really, I’d be very happy to support a house husband (with modest wants). I LIKE presents but don’t expect a constant flow of diamond rings. And, is the size of your arse really such a key facet of your relationship, from a man’s point of view? But – I personally think it’s time to put rationality ahead of romance.
This line particularly got to me:
‘There are things in life that cannot be undone or forgotten and just have to be lived with. When a relationship ends, the reality is that personal connections are often too deep to completely sever, particularly when children are involved.’
So, think carefully. It’s the little pieces of wisdom (like this) that I really liked about the book. Although, sorry, I’m FAR too lazy to do the proper scoring which Marc has kindly provided.
Anyway, now I’m going to follow El Guapo’s lead (though I don’t have his inimitable style)and see what YOU think .
Ps: if you’ve written a book and you’d like me to review it, I’ll be very happy to! More books to read for ME!!!